Lolita Fashion As Part Of My Identity

Lolita Fashion as Part of My Identity

5/22/2017

How important is lolita?

I am quite a colorful person. I have a wide range of interests and various ways that I express myself. Lolita Fashion has been a part of my identity for quite some time, but I have not thought about how integral lolita fashion is in my life until now! To say lolita fashion is just an aspect of my life would be a bit of an understatement.

Curious to learn the specifics?

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1. Lolita is a huge part of my life!

Lolita fashion is a huge part of my life. Much of my spare time involves lolita fashion in some capacity. In addition to this blog and my YouTube channel, many of my other activities center around lolita. I draw it, dress my dolls in it, and create my own jewelry and charm pieces to compliment my wardrobe. When I have a few free minutes, I often check on the latest items being sold on ClosetChild, LaceMarket and brand name online Lolita shops. My most used smartphone application in addition to Twitter and YouTube is Amino, as I am very involved with multiple lolita groups there!

I love this fashion. I love being able to see other people's coordinates, searching for new accessories, and learn about the latest releases. I teach myself new skills, such as photography and sewing, to enjoy my passion for lolita fashion even more! The ability to express myself so loudly with my distinctive clothes is a wonderful and fantastic opportunity that I cherish!

2. When I have to hide my fashion

I have a lot of interests. Many times, however, these hobbies are not topics I speak of in certain social situations. These feelings are completely normal, even if it feels uncomfortable or awkward at times. Regardless, I have grown when it comes to sharing my fashion with others. While it is much easier to answer inquiries when I am dressed in the fashion, I do not have an opportunity to wear lolita around the people I converse with on a day-to-day basis. Between my blog, business and YouTube channel, it is difficult to hide my passion from everyone. Now that I have become more secure with myself, I find that the ability to open and speak about my interest in J-fashion is much easier!

3. Lolita does not define me

I am a lot of things, in addition to being a lolita. I am a lolita, cosplayer, artist, writer, business owner, video-game enthusiast, otaku, BJD collector, fiancee, daughter, disney enthusiast and more. While lolita has been and will continue to play an important role in my life, I have many titles that reflect what my interests are and, while lolita may be the hobby I am most passionate about, it does not define me. I am so much more than just a Sweet Lolita. If I ever decided to move past my interest in lolita fashion, I would still be my own creative, quirky, romantic, magical and girly self.

What role does Lolita fashion play in your identity? Would you still be "you" without Lolita?

Stay Frilly,

2 Comments

Steph C. link

6/29/2017 12:07:00 pm

Your question about what role lolita fashion plays in my identity, and whether I would still be me without lolita is one that has been on my mind often lately.

I don't often feel that I can go out of the house in lolita. I go to about one meetup or convention every other month, and these are the only times I wear lolita out, even though I have a large wardrobe and wear it at home about 5 times a week, even if only for a couple hours after work. Lately, I find it harder and harder to go out in my normie clothes. I live in a small, rural community, and neither my husband's family nor my family, with the exception of my dad, is comfortable with lolita.

Having to wear my "regular" clothes to work doesn't make me happy, but it doesn't bother me too much, because it's work, and that's how it is. But I feel miserable any other time when I'm not in lolita because I do see it as a big part of my identity now. When I picture myself in my mind, I picture myself in lolita (or in athletic clothes, cause I do also like to be active). I don't feel like myself in the normal attire that is required for family functions, church, local events, etc. I feel like I am only pretending to be normal in those situations.

I know I am more than a lolita and "more than the dress" but I do wish it could be a bigger part of my public identity.

magicalgirlme link

6/30/2017 09:50:32 pm

Hello Steph,

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am glad to hear that this particular topic spoke to you, especially since it has been on your mind lately.

Being unable to wear your Lolita clothes must be a terrible feeling, especially since you have enough in your Lolita wardrobe to be able to wear the style for multiple days in the week. Conventions and meet-ups are a great opportunity to wear this fashion style, but when they come along so rarely it cannot be enough.

I hope that you will have more opportunities to wear Lolita in a public setting soon! It is never easy to convince a family to accept the style, but perhaps if they see that it is such an integral part of your life they can be more open minded and accepting. After all, no one should have to hide their lovely and frilly self.

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