What Makes Lolita Fashion Unique?
My Society's Expectations
Especially when this fashion is compared to current western trends, Lolita fashion truly stands out. The most common utterance I overhear, or comments that are made to me, often follow the belief that the article of clothing I choose to wear resembles a costume and is over the top. I can easily see that this is the case when compared to most standard western clothing. Many times the people who express this are impressed to learn that my fashion is simply an alternative clothing style from Japan.
Aside from the over the top features, it is often expressed that the style is very youthful or childish. While my estimated age is never guessed correctly, which I could only credit my wigs and my youthful personality, it is always surprising to me that such a elegant style is considered "childish".
Now that I am officially thirty years old, I have noticed that the western suggestions from American clothing companies have changed as well. This is especially apparent to me when I look at online Google and other similar advertisements. While these companies seem to grasp the concept that I prefer a printed dress in a modest style, these suggestions are a far cry from the Lolita aesthetic.
While these suggestions by Old Navy are fashionable, they are just not a style I am interested in wearing. I still prefer multiple clothing layers, a full skirt and the creative freedom Lolita gives me. While I may consider a similar simplistic style for work and everyday use, it is more likely that I will naturally gravitate to fashion styles with more common features as Lolita, such as Otome-Kei.
My Overall Opinion Is
I do not believe someone is to anything for Lolita fashion, least of all for something as trivial as your age. I have seen mothers who coordinate with their young daughters. I have seen grandmothers create elegant and impressive Lolita looks, and young women still in high school enter the fashion. Life is far too short to wear conventional clothing. My personality fits the Lolita aesthetic very well, especially Sweet Lolita. While I may age into a more Classic Lolita fashion style or a more mature Sweet Lolita style, I cannot see this transformation occurring any time soon. Lolita is all about expression. The ability to wear such feminine, sweet and cute clothes brings me great happiness! I believe this is infectious. Many times the reactions to my clothing style are overwhelmingly positive!
I believe that confidence is key. If you are confident in your clothes, people can pick up on that assurance. If someone feels that you are too, well anything, to do what you love then ignore them. There are far too many people out their in the world who will support you for your courage and creativity. Surround yourself with people who inspire, respect, drive, support and empower you!
Do what you love and what makes you happy. Your choice of style is not going to harm anyone. If this means that you will wear over the top Sweet Lolita for the rest of your life then do it! While I share that vision, I do realize that fashion is constantly changing and evolving. If I evolve personally and I wish to take a different turn with similar styles, wish to mature the styles I am already into or even move into a different style, those desires will be based on my personal journey, but not my age.
What is your opinion? Do you feel that there may be people who are too old to wear Lolita fashion? Have you personally found yourself questioning if you are aging out of Lolita? Let me know below!
This is the account of one young woman and her passion for Lolita Fashion.