This was an eye-opening experience.
My fiancee came back from the restroom with a contemplative expression on her features. When she sat back down at the restaurant table, my fiancee told me a tale that I could scarcely believe.
A Well-Known Truth
As a lolita, most of us are very comfortable with public reactions. I have had quite a handful of negative experiences. From hecklers to people lifting my skirts, I have adjusted to these rude actions.
My fiancee does not wear lolita fashion. While she does incorporate Goth elements to her style, it is often with mainstream items. On this date night, my fiancee wore a pearl headband, a rose ring, a grey dress with black leggings, and a beautiful black scarf with hidden white human skulls and purple roses. As you can understand, none of these articles were especially out of the ordinary.
According to my fiancee, a elderly woman was being assisted by her middle-aged daughter to the restroom. My fiancee assisted the two women by holding the bathroom door for them. As the daughter passed, she grabbed my fiancee's scarf. Startled, my fiancee just started at the woman who was rude enough to grab her. But of course, the rude woman took it a step farther. "It's not Halloween anymore, you should wear holiday colors." My fiancee asked her to leg to of the scarf, stating that it was a gift. Reluctantly, the women did so after a few moments. My fiancee used the restroom and came back to the table when she was sure that she could avoid another encounter.
We are not alone
I completely understand why my fiancee was shocked with this experience. It is months later and I still am appalled by this random woman's behavior! I never thought that these sorts of rude and hurtful interactions could occur to someone is relatively normal clothing! For some reason I always assumed that the obscure nature of lolita fashion just brought these personality flaws in the public. After all, a person does not need to grab a scarf in order to understand it's function.
In conclusion, I want to state that we are not alone. Not only are these experiences ones that people in our subculture experience, but other styles have these interactions too. It is important to support or fellow individuals who love fashion, regardless of the style, especially when in public!
What are some of your public reaction stories? Have you experienced them outside of lolita?
I would really love to hear your answers!
This is the account of one woman and her passion for lolita Fashion.