Know Your Limitations
As a Lolita myself, I completely understand the desire to wear lolita as often as possible. Many Lolitas I follow wear Lolita daily, or change into Lolita after work and on their days off. Lolita fashion is extravagant, especially when compared to mainstream everyday fashion. The sheer amount of fabric one needs to wear to be considered a "true" lolita coordinate is quite intimidating. The energy it takes to physically get dress in lolita can be a lot. By the time you have finished getting dressed in a dress or skirt, a blouse, a pair of bloomers, a petticoat, socks, shoes, you are only half done! You still need, more often than not, a wig, makeup, a bag, a head accessory and additional jewelry and accessories to complete the lovely look. When planning a coordinate, It is important to know your limitations.
I for one am never able to wear lolita after a day of work. I am far too tired mentally and physically to take on such a task. Additionally, I am usually unable to wear lolita fashion every weekend or on my days off, in order to recover from my work week. I am fortunate to know what my limits are for the most part. When I have a good day, I completely take advantage of it in order to adorn my lovely frilly lolita clothes! If I want to wear lolita, but I know it will conflict with my other important responsibilities, I know that it is not worth pushing myself beyond what I can handle. As much as you love lolita fashion, you will not be happy after you push your body beyond its limits.
The only time this is a truly difficult challenge is when my local lolita community has a meet up. I want to always RSVP at the opportunity to meet with other Lolitas in a public space. It is always fun to connect and be part a in-person community! It is important to know your limitations. The decision on the lolita meet-ups I do participate in, verses the ones I do not, depend on a number of factors:
What does the meet-up entail?
Where will we be going? Where is the event taking place? Will there be a lot of walking or driving?
The difference between a simple art exhibit in your hometown and extensive commute to a special tea house can be quite extensive. To know what the meetup requires for the event will help you plan adequate accommodations and the rest you will require after the event takes place.
How long is the event?
How long will the event physically last perhaps?
How long will it take to get to the meet-up and to drive back?
Is the plan to take an extended drive to an out of town location? How about a meet up that involves dinner and karaoke? It is always important to have an idea of how long the fun filled evening will be so you can assess whether it may be a good meet-up to attend and leave when needed or to skip it for the next one.
Is the event inside or out?
Is the event going to be inside or outside?
Do you need access to a power source? Do you have to be shaded from the sun? Do you get cold or hot easily? Do you need to wear extra layers or fewer in order to stay cozy? All of these questions are viable if your illness affects your body's ability to stay comfortable in certain temperatures.
Do I need to RSVP?
Do I need to RSPV for this event? Do I have to pay ahead of time for a ticket or spot?
If this is a meet up where you are required to pay ahead of time or one that you cannot easily cancel at the last minute due to illness, be sure you will be able to take time before hand to rest or recover from afterward. Nothing is worse than paying for a spot, only to have to cancel your RSVP due to being under the weather.
Make lolita work for You!
Lolita requires multiple layers, but there are multiple cuts and styles.
You can use this requirement to your advantage!
I find that a sensitivity to the sun, or undesired skin condition, can be easily be hidden with layers. A long blouse, a sweater, and tights are an easy way to keep your skin covered. Additional items, such as gloves, hats, parasols, and socks, can be added as a way to cover your skin and protect you from the sun.
Balance is always important. If you are prone to off-balance tendencies, it may be beneficial to wear flat boots or shoes. Tea party styled shoes are my favorite for times I need to feel a bit more grounded than usual. If you require additional support to walk, such as the need to use a cane, try to find a style that fits into the Victorian aspect of lolita fashion. Not only will you walk with confidence, you will have a bonus prop for your fashion coordinate!
Remember to have Fun!
Remember that fashion is fun!
Have fun and wear your frills proudly! There is no shame in the creation of a balance between fashion and your illness. Trust your instincts and your body. Rest and dress up when you can!
And there you have it! Those are my tips, tricks, and considerations when it comes to lolita fashion and illness. I hope this post was helpful for you. I would love to hear your suggestions as well!
This is the account of one young woman and her passion for lolita Fashion.